Stop Chasing Life, Start Living It!

Almost daily others are encouraging me to write and speak. It’s time to listen. This is the third of a 4-part blog series as I reflect on a big birthday in September 2018! If you missed them, here are the links to Part 1, “Lobsters Grow Vulnerably” and Part 2, “What Color is a Chameleon?”


Ever feel like you are constantly seeking, but never find what you are looking for? I’ve always been a dream chaser. With so many diverse skills it’s easy to fall in to this cycle. There is always something new to try. Or someone suggests I’d be good at something. Or there is a fabulous money-making idea. Or I am simply asked to help, and I can’t say, “No.”  It usually takes about a year or two for me to realize this isn’t what I want or should be doing. It doesn’t matter if I’m good at it. It doesn’t matter if there is tremendous opportunity to make money. It doesn’t matter if I’m doing it to help someone else out. Ultimately, these choices have ended up in disappointment, frustration, resentment, anger and failure.  Off I go, sometimes out of starvation and sometimes playfully to the next adventure.

Recently I purchased a digital marketing franchise. The traits of a successful digital marketing consultant and the business model was presented thoroughly. I matched all the traits, researched the company and the opportunity and evaluated it all against my current and goal lifestyles. It was a perfect match to replace my husband’s corporate income with a virtual income stream that can be sustained anywhere on the planet with an internet connection.  My dream of living as an expat was unfolding and this was the means to make it a reality. The dream chasing was back on!

I neglected to look at one key criterion: Will I like it?

SEO stands for Search Engine Optimization which are the tactics marketers use to ensure their online assets are “findable” by Google.  CMS stands for Content Management System which is the administrative platform behind a website, so the average person can make changes without knowing html (hypertext markup language) code. SM stands for….. Social Media! Inbound Marketing, Social Selling and measurable ROAS (Return on Ad Spent) are now minimum requirements not innovative. See I know what digital marketing is! I’ve taken seminars and workshops on these topics, I can learn and sell these services, right?!  Sure, I can learn it and probably offer it, but again, DO I WANT TO?!

“What do you want to do when you grow up?”

This question has brought me to tears countless times starting at age five! I recently turn 50 and I’m determined to get clarity on how I can improve the planet with my God-given talents, make a living and enjoy what I’m doing!

Books like, Do what you love, the money will follow, The Zen and Art of Making a Living, Right LivelihoodCallings, and The Law of Divine Compensation always intrigue and then haunt me. Incredible insights, great reflection fodder, and ultimately they stir up incredible angst.

It’s time to follow the same advice I’m giving my kids…dabble, experiment, try everything you can in your 20’s until you find something that you love. As the old saying goes, “Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life.”

Here’s to dabbling in dreams playfully and being our authentic selves in the process with as little pain and suffering as possible.

No more chasing the utopian dream…just live it now!


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